This week I had the pleasure of meeting up with a dear friend that I had not seen in over 10 years. We drove around Portland, hit a vintage toy store and ate lunch at a dive diner that had great food and waitresses with low cut tops. Catching up with him, I had several different realizations.
The first realization is that with true friends there is no uncomfortableness. Although we had been privy to each others lives via Facebook, we had not really had any in depth conversations for a long time. However, after just a few minutes in the car together, we picked up right where we had left off. We reminisced about our experiences in Pocatello, we chatted about people from the past and discussed what was happening in our current lives.
My second realization was how much we had both grown, personally and professionally. We are both in long term relationships, finished our schooling and are well established in our careers. Sometimes, we forget how far we’ve come. Having friends as mirrors can help us to recognize the journey we’ve made. That being said, being able to truly appreciate the success and growth of friends takes a certain level of maturity. For a long time, I lacked this level of maturity. Not being comfortable with myself and insecurity about my own success made it difficult for me to be happy for others. I am glad I am finally “there”.
My last realization in meeting with my friend was a simple reminder of the importance of friendship. I know a lot of people. However, there are only a handful that I consider to be friends. As I get older, I find that the friends from my past I appreciate more and more and the friends that are new(er) are more wisely chosen and appreciated in a much different way than when I was in my youth. I am blessed to have some of the best friends in the world, something I am working on not taking for granted.
I am still working on the socks. They are for my nephew who has a size 14 foot. Just a few more inches and I will start working on the heel!