Looking back on many of my relationships, I recognize that I am drawn to people that need to be fixed (this might seem obvious as I am a therapist and "fix" people for a living, but sometimes we don't see the obvious). Fixing was especially an issue for me when I first started dating. I… Continue reading Some pondering about relationships and the Hitchhiker Shawl
I'm lucky. I've always been able to process things, rather it be emotions or information at a quick speed . I am also lucky in that I have the flexibility to adjust my feelings, thoughts or actions about something if I am wrong. Because of this, I am efficient and often finish things at a… Continue reading Second Guessing Myself and more hats
A while back, I lost a friend in a mass shooting (his name is too sacred to write here). He had a natural beauty that reminded me of a merman. His eyes sparkled like the moon hitting water, his hair smelled like ocean and his smile was a religious experience. His soul was pure and… Continue reading Gun Violence, Hats and Gloves
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This week I had the pleasure of meeting up with a dear friend that I had not seen in over 10 years. We drove around Portland, hit a vintage toy store and ate lunch at a dive diner that had great food and waitresses with low cut tops. Catching up with him, I had several… Continue reading On old friends and big ass socks
Knitting has taught me a lot about life. One of the most useful lessons that I have learned from knitting is knowing when to give up. For my most recent projects (socks), I used a bulkier than normal yarn that ended up not winding well and became tangled. I spent about three hours trying to… Continue reading Knitting and knowing when to give up
Leigh Corfman is the lady that Roy Moore sexually assaulted when she was a child of 14 year old. Corfman came forward 30+ years later when Moore was at his most vulnerable politically and was likely a major part of him losing the election. I am glad that she did not "forgive" him and "let… Continue reading Screw forgiveness and some cute socks
"Beyond a wholesome discipline, be gentle with yourself". -Desiderata by Max Ehrmann New Years is my favorite holiday. I fuck up a lot in life, so any blank slate where I can start over is much appreciated. In my younger years, I would spend New Years Eve in a typical fashion of drinking too much and… Continue reading My New Years Resolution(s) that aren’t new and “Fuck the Cold”
One of the "homework assignments" that I often give my clients is to write a gratitude list of twenty things. I explain that the list must be specific (they can't just say "family", they have to drill down about what they are grateful "My son's smile in the morning"). I have them keep this list… Continue reading A gratitude list, an Alaska hat and my new Babe.
I first read "100 Years of Solitude" by Gabriel Garcia Marquez when I was in 10th grade. I chose the book out of a stack of paperbacks that a friend's dad was giving away. I had never heard of the book, but the title stuck out as I was dealing with some depression due to… Continue reading 100 Years of Solitude